How Are You?

How are you?

When somebody asks you, “How are you,” how do you respond? People generally respond in one of three ways: negatively, neutrally or positively.

A negative response reflects a negative mood state derived from negative thinking. Typical negative responses are: “Terrible.” “Lousy.” “Been better.” “Not so good.” Often times, whether solicited or not, their negative response will be followed up with an onslaught of complaints and problems. If they’re not close to you, find an escape route as soon as possible so that their attitude doesn’t poison yours. Misery loves company and soon you’ll be sharing in their misery.

A neutral response reflects an apathetic attitude. These responses are a step above the negative response. People that give these types of responses are generally the type of people that are content to just get by in life. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to associate with people that just want to get by in life. I want much more than that! Typical neutral responses are: “I’m ok.” “Fine.” “Same old, same old.” “Not too bad.”

The third type of response is a positive response. It reflects an enthusiastic mood derived from positive thinking. Typical positive responses include: “Great.” “Fantastic.” “Never been better.” “On top of the world.” There’s a magical transference of positive energy when you associate with positive people. Unlike, negative people who pull you down and neutral people who could care less, I can’t wait to be around the type of people who are “On top of the world.” Positive people are energetic; they have bounce in their step. Their thoughts and words shape their reality; a positive reality at that.

Most of us have a conditioned response to “How are you.” Ask yourself, how do I respond to the question? Are you consistently negative, neutral or positive? I generally respond with “Wonderful” or “Top of the world.” I choose to respond positively; you can too. If your one of those people who generally gives a negative or neutral response, start responding positively today. Try rehearsing the positive responses listed above or any positive response for that matter. Say the words repeatedly and see if you don’t feel a slight change in your mood and physiological state. Since words derive from thoughts, you can consciously alter your thoughts by continually saying positive words. The words we choose will influence our thoughts. When you hear yourself say positive words, you reinforce a positive belief system. A positive belief system is the cornerstone of success.

The next time somebody ask you “How are you,” try responding with “Fantastic” or some other positive word. You’ll energize two people in the process; yourself and the person asking the question. When we think positive, we expect positive and when we expect positive, we achieve positive. Since we are what we think about, if you think you’re fantastic, you’ll be nothing short of fantastic.

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MJD